The Truth is Within Us

I have always been deeply interested and curious about the striking similarities we can find in the teachings of great Spiritual Teachers like Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad, and others. These great Spiritual Teachers have embodied proof of the undeniable existence of God (the Divine, the Cosmic Universe, Consciousness, the Creator, etc. )

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However, the Spiritual Teachers did not personally start any religion, they simply shared their teachings and hoped that they would spread, so in time, their followers gathered in their name and established institutionalized religions based on their Masters’ teachings. Most institutionalized religions are based on ancient scriptures that are believed to represent the original teachings of the great Masters.

The problem that often arises when following scriptures is the conflicting interpretations of words. Although words and languages are one of our most trusted ways to communicate knowledge, words are limited and can be interpreted differently by different people in different stages of human history and evolution.

Therefore, it is hard to own the truth behind the words, especially if the words are being interpreted solely with our intellect, and in most cases people don’t even seek to interpret the words, they just take the interpretations of those who came before them and make them their own; which is what happens in most religions.

The reason why we can’t rely on our intellect or that of our ancestors is because the truth of God can not really be explained or measured, it can only be experienced. Our reasoning can not possibly grasp the immensity of the Divine, so it is literally impossible to convey it with words.

Another problem with religions is that in most cases they worship their Spiritual Leader and by doing so they often forget about the essence of their message. True Spiritual leaders are not seeking to be worshiped, they are trying to convey a message, the message of their experience of God. I once heard a metaphor that said that Spiritual Teachers are like a teapot containing a delicious magical tea, but religions are focused on worshiping the teapot instead of drinking the tea!

The experience of God or rather the experience of Truth (the truth of our existence) is open to every single human being, regardless of their religion or lack of, their level of education, their culture, their color, etc. there are no conditions to the experience of God, it is accessible to every single one of us. This is because the experience is unique to each of us and the truth is within everyone of us.

Although we can certainly use the wise teachings offered by religions, we need to seek the truth inside ourselves, if we don’t do this, the truth will never be revealed to us. The experience of God (or truth), is the inner knowing that lies dormant within every human being. This is something most great Spiritual Leaders have said, in different ways:

Jesus: “The kingdom of God is within you.” (Luke 17:21)

Prophet Muhammad: “There is no intermediary between God and man. By remembering God, a person establishes direct contact with Him.”

“The secret of Buddhism is to remove all ideas, all concepts, in order for the truth to have a chance to reveal itself.” Thích Nhất Hạnh

The story of Brahma in Hinduism: “Brahma seated himself on the floating Lotus and looked in all directions for any other beings. Not seeing anyone around but feeling a desire for knowledge, he meditated, seeking knowledge within himself. There he found Truth, God himself, in his own heart, and looking around he now saw God everywhere.”

It is by removing the obstacles to our understanding that the truth will reveal itself from within. The problem is that our material existence brings a lot of obstacles to our understanding of the truth. Our judgments and resistance of our surroundings are major obstacles to our connection with our inner wisdom.

It is not easy to let go of these obstacles (distractions) as long as we are in a human body, but if we see our body as the temple that holds our spirit, our soul, our essence and our truth, we can begin to connect with it, even through our body itself. If we let go of our mind reasoning and logic, and our sense-based perceptions and judgments we can begin to connect to our inner knowing, we can allow it to come out, and we can start to feel the truth, to experience it.

The teachings of religions, as much as our everyday life experiences and relationships can be great teachers, because God (Truth) is revealing itself to us everyday and through everything, but it is only until we “take our blinders off” (remove the obstacles) that we can finally see the truth or rather feel it.

I encourage you to find ways in which to quiet your mind and let go of judgments, in order to find that silence within that will help you reveal the inner wisdom that lies beneath you.

Have a good week!

Related Articles and links:

The Opportunity is Here

Faith, Religion and Spirituality

If you are interested in exploring the similarities amongst religions I recommend you look at The Harmony Project Website.


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Health and Spirit, the connection that matters!

As I was listening to some friends talk about illness and health… I got inspired to write this post.

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I first would like to share with you that one of my worst fears used to be the idea of loosing my health.

I was not only scared about loosing it, I was rather obsessed about it. Every time I saw a weird stain or pimple on my skin I would start to worry; every time I had any kind of pain or sensation in my body that wasn’t normal I would start to panic and consider all the possible worst-case health scenarios out there. It was exhausting!

It wasn’t until my first exposure to the idea that our thoughts have an enormous impact on our health that I started to change this obsessive pattern, until it completely disappeared, to my great relief. After seeing this incredible shift in my own life, I started to pay more attention to the way people see and manage their health.

Health is one of the most important elements in our human existence. Some people take it for granted, others obsess about it, others abuse it, others believe they have no control over it, others feel responsible for it, etc. The list can go on and on and on, we all have a different attitude towards it.

Can you think of the way you see your own health? the way you manage it? Why don’t you take a minute and think about it… What does your health mean to you and what are your thoughts about it?

I was recently with a friend that was diagnosed with a progressive illness. She seemed to be totally resigned to her fate since it was, as the doctors put it, “genetic.” So in her mind, she was bound to get it and there was nothing she could do about it, except for alleviating the symptoms with drugs. That was that!

This is not uncommon, in fact, many people believe that if their parents or close relatives had an illness, there is a great probability of them getting it as well, and doctors support this point of view, unfortunately. The part that nobody tells us is that genetics plays a very small part on developing any disease, very small.

There are people who are diagnosed with a terminal disease, and they resign themselves, even worse, if a doctor tells them how long they have left to live, they believe it without question, because Doctors know best or because the statistics say so. They see no way out.

On the other hand, there are people who challenge their diagnosis, who fight the disease, who take an active part on their fate, and some become those lucky cases that make it, that beat the disease. Finally, there are the so-called miracles, when people heal completely and beat the odds without any medical explanation for it. There are as many scenarios as there are people alive.

One of my favorite phrases from Deepak Chopra (who was a Medical Doctor too) was: “You can accept a diagnosis but never a prognosis.” And this is very important to keep in mind. Having a diagnosis is one thing, but what will happen after, is a completely different one, and it depends on many factors that are unique to each individual.

As for medicine, we can’t deny that traditional western medicine has helped increase life expectancy and fight disease, however, this does not take the responsibility of our health away from us. In fact, the more complex and sophisticated medicine has become, the more we need to get involved in healing our bodies. Also, we should never dismiss other ancient, and more modern types of medicine such as: Oriental medicine, Homeopathy, Acupuncture, Ayurveda, Herbal medicine, Energy medicine etc. There is a great amount of knowledge and wisdom in each and every one of them.

But aside from the realm of medicine, there is one major truth, and that is: nothing controls our health more than we do… can I say it again? nothing controls our health more than we do…

A lot of people will strongly disagree with this statement, and I totally understand, a lot of people may even find it offensive, and that too, I understand.

Nevertheless, if we come to grasp the complex workings of our health, we start to see the truth in this statement. Our health is the result of a balance between our physical body, our mind and our soul, if we disregard any of these three inseparable parts of us, we are not seeing ourselves as a whole and we fall out of balance. This imbalance is what creates disease, and even accidents (yes, believe it or not!). In fact put in one phrase: our health depends solely on the level of harmony and connection that we have with our soul, that is all.

We could write volumes on the last paragraph, but to keep it simple and short for this post lets say this:
Emotions are deeply implicated in the causation of illness or in the restoration of health. When we have negative emotions, and we do not know how to handle them, or we are not even aware of them, they can create blockages in our body, if not dealt with properly, these blockages will create disease and later death.

Now, emotions are caused by our thoughts and our thoughts are mostly based on beliefs that are often unconscious. If we can disconnect form our thoughts and connect with our soul (our true consciousness) we can be in control of our emotions, and therefore our health.

The particular symptoms or diseases are quite irrelevant, as long as we are dealing with symptoms, we will always have symptoms to deal with (in different organs and different diseases). In other words, handling the symptoms is not the right way to restore a person’s health.

Being in good health means being in balance, so what a sick person needs is to regain his/her balance, and there are many ways to do this, and there are many types of healing techniques available, including of course traditional medicine, but the ultimate outcome will depend on the person’s awareness of their own body-mind-spirity connection.

This is a simple yet also very complex statement. Awareness means we need to “unlearn” a lot of things and we need to open up to a totally different point of view and devote the time and effort it takes to embark in this journey, probably the most important journey you will ever take in your human lifetime.

Just some food for thought…Take care of yourself and consider what you just read…

Have a great week!

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Avoid Unnecessary Hurt

I recently came across a quote that I found interesting and I wanted to share it with you today:

“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper.
They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up worn out.”

– Chris Colfer

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Although by no means we should allow people to hurt us over and over, it is important to keep in mind that we have little control over what other people say or do, but we certainly have control over our own emotions and reactions.

I strongly believe that people are not out there to hurt you, but they have their own issues and challenges and if they can’t keep their negative emotions under control (envy, resentment, anger, etc.), they may say or do things that hurt others; whether they do it on purpose or not, it is still a result of their own lack of emotion control. Your reaction is also the result of your own emotion control.

You can choose today not to let other people’s comments or actions bring you down, you can decide to grow in understanding and wisdom and raise above it or, you can sink in despair, anger, resentment,t etc. But remember, it is always YOUR choice!

Some people believe they have little control over their emotions and they feel victims of their circumstances, but the truth is we always have a choice, and we need to become responsible for our own well-being, therefore responsible for our own emotions and reactions. Once we accept this simple truth, we can work towards achieving peace by learning to tame our emotions, one of the best ways to do this is to quiet our minds, because our thoughts and beliefs are responsible for our emotions.

We are not victims of our surroundings, we are the creators of our life, so we can choose how to live, it takes some effort and commitment but it is worth every minute spent on it. Knowing that you don’t depend on others for your happiness is an empowering thought. This to me was a wonderful realization, one that gave me freedom from the people around me and the circumstances around me.

This does not mean we should let people get away with anything, when dealing with difficult relationships we should certainly take action to prevent further hurt. But ultimately others can only hurt us as much as we allow them to. Below is a short list of what we can do to start:

  • Avoid people who tend to say or do hurtful things, if you can
  • Talk to them when you are both calm and at peace, let them know your feelings, without blaming them
  • If neither of the above are possible, practice detachment and self control when you are in their presence

The list above can be used in many different contexts and situations, not only in regards to difficult relationships but also for difficult circumstances. If you find yourself in a situation that is less than desirable, you have 3 choices:

  • You remove yourself from the situation, OR
  • You fix the situation, OR
  • You accept the situation and learn to live with it, in peace

As Eckart Tolle would say: “resisting your present reality can only lead to frustration and despair.” By resisting he means resenting your current situation and allowing it to bring you down.

Some people find it hard to believe that they can become immune to hurtful actions and words from others, but they are hurtful only to the extent that we allow them to be. With some conscious work on yourself, you can little by little attain freedom from external circumstances. If you want to read more on this topic, I have a few more postings that might be of interest to you:

Have a great week!

The Truth about Multitasking

In this fast-paced world, we have come to believe that “Multitasking” is a great skill, a needed one in fact, something all of us should master and can boost about. Well, the truth is, multitasking is not so good for you.

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According to Wikipedia: “Human multitasking is the best performance by an individual of appearing to handle more than one task at the same time. The term is derived from computer multitasking.”

This new word: “multitasking” has become a synonym of efficiency, speed, professionalism, etc. which is a total lie, another illusion we live under, an illusion imposed by the crazy pace of life we are all victims of.

Constantly switching from one task to another means we are putting less attention on each task and affecting the way our brain performs, we are more likely to make errors and ironically we waste more time.

From a very early age now, we subject our young kids to tight agendas, too many extracurricular activities which, in my opinion, contributes partly to the latest epidemic of ADD and ADHD. Our kids have to move from one activity to the next with no break, and often because of lack of time they have to handle more than one task at a time, like doing their homework while eating their supper for instance. We are making our kids handle too many things at once, which is not healthy, especially for a developing brain.

As human beings, our nature, our essence, our true self is meant to BE, rather than to DO. This does not mean we should sit around and do nothing, what it means is that we have a right and a real need to find a space to just BE, like a tree, like a flower, like an animal, we need to just BE, and stop all the doing.

What happens now is that we have totally neglected our state of “being” to favor our state of “doing” to the point that we have lost touch with our true self.

We feel like we have to be doing something all the time, because we are not comfortable with just being, we are not comfortable with our most innate and natural state. So we do more and more and “thanks” to our modern technology, we now can do many things at the same time, we can send an email, while we walk the dog and listen to music; we can be on the phone while we work on the computer and eat lunch, it is simply INSANE!

Besides, this new idea of multitasking is taking all the fun out of actually enjoying any particular task, because we are not truly present when doing anything. In positive psychology, there is a very interesting concept called “flow,” it was introduced by psychologist: Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.

Flow is the mental state in which a person is fully involved in an activity to the point of loosing track of time, this state induces great joy and satisfaction, which in turn constitutes great fuel for our brain and our overall well being.

For some people the state of flow only happens when they are forced to be totally focused in a certain task, for instance running a marathon, or climbing a mountain, these are activities where there is no room for distraction, so no room for any other parallel activity nor thought. Many people can still experience flow, however, while doing things like: painting, dancing, etc. this is especially true of artists, when they enter a state of deep inspiration.

One of the beauties of being in a state of flow is that it takes you right to the present moment, nothing else matters but what you are doing, and you are bringing all your focus to it, this means you are fully in the present. Which brings us back to the concept of being as opposed to doing. If we are in the present moment, totally present with the task at hand, we are “being” not just doing.

So the state of flow goes against the idea of multitasking, where we have no time for true concentration, no time for full attention, no time for real enjoyment, no time for being. We are not wired for multitasking, and we are creating unnecessary stress in our bodies by doing so, no matter how simple the tasks may seem.

The idea of being fully present at every moment means we do things in a mindful way, that is, in a conscious and aware state. When we do anything mindfully we are more likely to do it right, at the right time and with better results. So I encourage you to rethink your multitasking this week!

If you wish to read more about Flow, I highly recommend the book: Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

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Change the Dream

A few days ago I came across a very interesting story that I would like to reflect on today.

The story I read was about the Ashuar, an indigenous group from the rainforest of my home country Ecuador. This group reached out to environmentalist groups and global activists in order to transmit their message to our civilized world (if we can call it that…)

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Photo Courtesy of http://www.nationalgeographic.com

These people believe that our civilized world has created a reality based on a collective dream, a dream that has become a nightmare and is affecting the entire planet, it may even drive our human race to its collapse. And, according to the Ashuar: “The world is as you dream it.”

In their view, we live in “the dream of more”: more factories, more companies, more houses, more cars, more of everything, and according to them “we can’t really change our everyday actions because at their root, will always be the dream we have of our future and we will always act consistent with that dream. However, the dream itself can be changed in the space of one generation and the time to do it is now” (source: The Soul of Money – Lynne Twist)

The way I interpret the meaning of “dream” in the context of the Ashuar’s message, is the equivalent to our beliefs, the ways we see the world and the assumptions we make as a society. This “dream” is not necessarily true, but it drives our lives and the way we act on others and on our planet. To me the “dream of more” represents materialism, the culture of money and overall the capitalist system that now rules most of the world.

Also, in this message I find an interesting parallel to the law of attraction that states that what you focus on and give your attention to (whether is good or bad for you) will manifest in your life. Aside form our individual focus and attention, we also have a collective focus (or dream), a collective set of beliefs that brings about the world we live in. Our “dream” therefore is our deep seated beliefs about life, that have been around for many generations and have become the norm, most people don’t even question them at all, it is what it is and it rules our lives and our social systems.

But what IF we started to question it? what if we tried to detach ourselves from this collective dream?

Each and every one of us is part of this dream and we have an individual responsibility to change it if we want to survive as a race and live a more fulfilling life. As the Ashuar say, we can’t truly change our actions unless we start by changing the dream and we can, one individual at a time.

Our own journey into the realization of this dream is very important because it will contribute to a greater change, it will bring a positive shift on our societies.

To me this message rings true and it gives me hope, hope that there are enough people in this world that are raising to a higher level of awareness and they can help others move into it, hope that this message will spread so that there will be more and more people questioning the current dream we live in.

If you are interested to read or learn more about this topic, here are a couple good resources:

Awakening the Dreamer Symposium

Dream Change further readings

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Ego vs. Self

This week I would like to talk about the distinction between the ego and the self.

For a long time I had been confused about the distinction between the two, and it wasn’t until a few years back that I started to grasp the difference and understood the importance of being aware of it.

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I personally associated the word “ego” with a sense of pride, which to me had a negative connotation. However, I later discovered that our ego simply means our sense of self-esteem or self-importance and our notion of personal identity. So, there is nothing wrong with our ego, it is normal and natural to have it.

However, it is truly important to realize where our ego comes from, that is, where our sense of worth and identity comes from, because more often than not, it comes from the wrong places, wrong concepts and, wrong beliefs.

As I delved more and more into spiritual, self growth and well being texts, I started to comprehend why there was a clear distinction made between the ego and the self and how important it was to understand it fully.

Most of us associate our personal identity and sense of worth to things such as:

  • Our bodies, our looks
  • Our culture, nationality, race, religion or even political views
  • Our profession, our career, our success or failure
  • Our thoughts, feelings and emotions
  • Our role in the community, etc

For instance, if we believe we ARE our body and looks (depending on our beliefs about them) we can identify with being beautiful, ugly, overweight, skinny, etc. and that can be the one aspect that rules most of our self worth.

Regardless of whether we are happy or unhappy with the particular body we have, we can not and should not derive our sense of worth from it, because we are NOT our bodies and looks.

We can also derive our sense of identity from our culture(s), our our nationality or even our race. We can also identify so deeply with a religion or political view that we come to believe we ARE them, but although we can participate or be a member of a religion or party, our identity is not derived from their doctrine.

If we believe we ARE our profession, career, success, failure, etc. It means we see ourselves as being a “lawyer” or a “Doctor” or a “Secretary” and we let that define us. Or, in terms of success and failure, we can see ourselves as being rich or poor, successful or unsuccessful, etc. Either way, none of these things really define who we are.

As for our thoughts, feelings and emotions, if we believe we ARE what we think or feel; it means we judge ourselves by the way we see the world, we can be anything: arrogant, weak, intelligent, sad, etc. But again, we are NOT our thoughts, nor our emotions and feelings.

We can also be defined as the role we have in the community, for instance, we can be the daughter or son of such and such, or the wife of so and so, or the mother of so and so, etc. Again, our particular role in a community is not who we are.

So, who are we? you may ask, and it is a good question. I have asked myself this question many times.
Well, that is when the distinction between ego and self comes in handy, to explain this conundrum.

The ego is our sense of identity through the things mentioned above, but deep inside us there is a real, true and unchanging identity that is our essence, our core and our only identity, and that is the “self.” the self is basically us but after we peel off all the layers of the ego, once none of the ego-defining aspects are there, or we go beyond them to find our true nature. The self is simply the presence inside each and every one of us.

To explain this a little better, have you ever had the experience that you are just witnessing your thoughts? That there is one that thinks and deep inside one that just observes without judgment?

This is a truly life-changing experience, at least it was for me, because I realized then that the “observer” was my true self, buried deep beneath all the other layers, which is why it took me so long to find it.

There are very nice analogies that are often used to explain this, my favorite is that of a wheel, in which the outer edges are the ego-defining aspects of ourselves, always changing and moving, while the axle in the center is our true self: stable, strong, grounded, unchangeable, etc.

The problem is, our sense of identity gravitates often on the edges of the wheel, so we are constantly being thrown out of balance and have a sense of instability, uncertainty, unsettlement and confusion. If we are able to find out center, however, we also find our balance, our inner peace, in other words our true self and we can live life from a much more real and satisfying place, while still filling the roles we need to fill during our lifetime.

There are many ways of finding our true self, but perhaps the most important is by quieting the “noise” of the outer world and the “chatter” of our thoughts. Only then we can stop and wait for our self to emerge, and I promise, it will!!

If you want to read more about this, I highly recommend the work of Eckart Tolle, I find his way of explaining these complicated concepts to be incredibly compelling. You can start with The Power of Now, it is a clear and concise book that will change the way you see life.
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All your current notions of self worth, whether they are working or not for you, they are not real, in reality you are much greater, much stronger, much wiser that you can possible imagine!

Have a great week!


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The Roller Coaster of Emotions

This week I wanted to tackle a vast subject: Emotions, and how they can throw us out of balance.

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When our emotions rule our lives (which is the case for most of us), we are in a constant roller coaster: sometimes we are up, sometimes down, sometimes in between, but we are rarely fully grounded, balanced and at peace. Until we are able to get out of this roller coaster, we are vulnerable.

Different people handle their emotions differently, but we all have them.

There is a vast array of diversity when it comes to the way we handle our emotions and, a large variety of emotions as well.
We may handle different emotions in different ways too, for instance: it may be easier for someone to express anger, but very difficult to express sorrow.

Emotions are a form of energy and it is important to keep this energy circulating, especially if the energy is of negative content (fear, anxiety, guilt, anger, sorrow, etc), we need to let it out of our bodies, we need to get rid of it.

For the purpose of this posting, I will divide people on 4 main groups, related to the way they handle their emotions, especially negative ones, and how they can affect them:

  1. People who show their emotions freely
  2. People who contain or repress their emotions consciously
  3. People who ignore their emotions as if they don’t exist
  4. People who have tamed their emotions by finding inner peace

The first group: those who show their emotions freely, are people who are able to express their emotions with no repression, and although they may be seen as immature or weak by others, the benefit of this type is that they are able to free themselves from the negative emotion/energy and move on, they let it out of their bodies, until the next emotion comes along of course.

The second group: those who repress their emotions consciously, may be seen by others as more mature, polite, in control, etc. but inside they have a hard time processing the emotion and it takes them longer to get rid of the negative energy produced by it, but at least they are aware the emotion.

The third group: those who ignore their emotions as if they don’t exist, are people who are often seen as happy go lucky or unfazed by anything, but deep inside their emotions/energy is stuck and with no way out. This energy gets blocked in the body and oftentimes ends up showing up as physical pain, discomfort and ultimately disease more or less severe.

The people in the second and third groups tend to repress or ignore their emotions because they received messages of inadequacy when they express them as children. Depending on the culture and family they grew up in, beliefs were planted in their subconscious mind, such as: expressing emotions is a sign of weakness, it is impolite or shameful to express them, it is not ok to “bother” people with your emotions, etc.

Now, on to the fourth group: those who have tamed their emotions by finding inner peace, they are probably the most rare and the healthiest of all, they are able to tame their emotions in the sense that they are not really affected so much by what happens to them, they have found true inner peace and strength, therefore the intensity of negative emotions/energy has gone down dramatically.

Note that there is a big difference between the third and fourth groups, even though in the surface it may seem they handle their emotions in the same way. Those who ignore them, still have all that negative energy trapped in their bodies, while those who have found inner peace do not really accumulate any negative energy.

After understanding all these nuances, I came to realize how lucky I was to be able to express my emotions freely, but I also work hard to reach that inner peace that will free me from the turmoil of negative emotions altogether.

An important point to add here is that the people in the last group are by no means insensitive to the world around them, they are usually loving and caring people, but they are wiser as to how they navigate the world, they have been able to get down of the roller coaster.

Have a great week!


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* Silva Intuition Training (for DC Metro Area residents). June 30 – July 1. For more information, call Diana at 703-866-4030 or email her at:
silvamethod@cox.net. The Silva Method is a wonderful system to improve your life in a long lasting way, I highly recommend their programs and I personally know Diana to be a wonderful teacher, mentor, friend.

* Lighten Up for Spring This is a wonderful program offered by a friend of mine, it is a do-at-your-own pace program and will help you balance your brain chemistry, clear out the junk, and begin to shift your relationship to eating and your body… so you can have more energy, more peace and more freedom to do what you love!