Worries, worries and more worries…

How can we possibly get rid of our worries?

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Worrying is a very common thing, and depending on our personality we can be more or less of a worrier, but most people do worry about many different things, whether they admit it or not.

Our worries can be big or small, and they can take up some of our time and attention or they can take up a lot of it. People worry about things like not having enough money to pay bills, getting sick, their kids not doing well in school, loosing their jobs, etc… There are a million things we can worry about on a daily basis.

But worrying is always about our mind projecting into the future, imagining things, it always involves fear of the future, fear of being in a place or a situation that we consider negative, scary. But if we look closely at the things we worry about, in many cases they are unrealistic projections that may never happen. Or even if they are realistic, we often blow them out of proportion.

“I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.”
Mark Twain

Indeed, our minds are so incredibly powerful, that their projections can make us experience tremendous fear that can take us away from what is real, from what we have, from the people we love, from the good things around us… If our mind is consumed in fear and anxiety, we are NOT present, we are not living fully and we are missing important things.

So, the key to stop worrying is to learn to quiet our mind, so that eventually we can successfully shut it off when it starts going into all sorts of negative projections; and come back to the present, to what is real, to what we need to deal with.

This became really true for me, about a month ago, when I suffered from a heart attack. I feel God gave me the opportunity to see what I have really learned, because it is easy to stay calm when things are going well in our lives, but when things get rocky, that is when we really know how far we have come.

After all these years of working on my fears, meditating, doing yoga, trying to quiet my mind, be present, live in the moment, etc. I was suddenly in a situation of great fear: fear for my health, for my life, for my kids, for the future, etc…

As I was in the hospital, dealing with all the unpleasant tests and waiting for the Doctors to come to a diagnosis, I realized that I could easily sunk into deep fear and anxiety, or simply BE, deal with the moment, without projecting anything in the future. I noticed for example that as soon as I started thinking of my small children, I would start crying and feeling totally powerless and scared, so, as soon as their little faces or voices came to my mind, I just banished the thought and immediately I felt calmer.

Also, I had always been incredibly afraid of needles, and any sort of intrusive medical procedures, so when they told me they were going to do a cardiac cath, I felt my stomach contracting, I felt totally anxious, but again, I was able to shut off my fear inducing thoughts and just BE in the moment, calm.

As I was recently reading about what happened to me, called a SCAD (Spontaneous Coronary Artery Dissection), which is a very rare type of heart attack, for which medicine has no answers yet, Doctors have no idea what causes it, how it can be prevented and if it could happen again. I realized I could worry about this all my life, wondering if it could happen again, or, I could just live my life, at peace, since nobody knows what can happen tomorrow, what is the point of worrying after all… So, I stopped reading about it, thinking about it, and I was able to let go of that worry.

Thanks to this experience, I have realized that all these years of personal work have paid off, I am gaining some control of my mind, at least now I know for a fact that our worries are nothing but the workings of our mind projections, AND we can control our minds. If I can do it, anybody can do it!

Of course, we cannot suddenly shut off our thoughts, but the first step is to realize that our thoughts are responsible for most of our fear and worries, and that our mind projections are not real, they are just projections and, we can learn to control our minds. Realizing this is huge!

The next step, for which we really need commitment, is to learn how to quiet our minds, how to clean our minds from the incessant stream of thought and external stimulation, so that in time our thoughts are less controlling, sparse and healthier.

One of my favorite authors: Eckart Tolle says that the longer the time between a perception and a thought the greater the presence, in other words, if our minds do not start thinking immediately about what our senses perceive, but we just experience the perception without any thoughts about it (judgment, labeling, projecting) the more we are present, and presence is real, it is all there is!

So, if you are a serious worrier, stop justifying your worries, instead, consider accepting the fact that you make up the projections that feed your fear, and you can get rid of them if you make some shifts in your life by changing your perception and working on quieting your mind. It takes conviction and commitment, but it is possible, it will transform your life for the better, and, it is never too late to start!

Have a good week!

Related posts:

Free yourself from fear

Fear: the source of all negativity

Taming our Monkey Minds


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Health and Spirit, the connection that matters!

As I was listening to some friends talk about illness and health… I got inspired to write this post.

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I first would like to share with you that one of my worst fears used to be the idea of loosing my health.

I was not only scared about loosing it, I was rather obsessed about it. Every time I saw a weird stain or pimple on my skin I would start to worry; every time I had any kind of pain or sensation in my body that wasn’t normal I would start to panic and consider all the possible worst-case health scenarios out there. It was exhausting!

It wasn’t until my first exposure to the idea that our thoughts have an enormous impact on our health that I started to change this obsessive pattern, until it completely disappeared, to my great relief. After seeing this incredible shift in my own life, I started to pay more attention to the way people see and manage their health.

Health is one of the most important elements in our human existence. Some people take it for granted, others obsess about it, others abuse it, others believe they have no control over it, others feel responsible for it, etc. The list can go on and on and on, we all have a different attitude towards it.

Can you think of the way you see your own health? the way you manage it? Why don’t you take a minute and think about it… What does your health mean to you and what are your thoughts about it?

I was recently with a friend that was diagnosed with a progressive illness. She seemed to be totally resigned to her fate since it was, as the doctors put it, “genetic.” So in her mind, she was bound to get it and there was nothing she could do about it, except for alleviating the symptoms with drugs. That was that!

This is not uncommon, in fact, many people believe that if their parents or close relatives had an illness, there is a great probability of them getting it as well, and doctors support this point of view, unfortunately. The part that nobody tells us is that genetics plays a very small part on developing any disease, very small.

There are people who are diagnosed with a terminal disease, and they resign themselves, even worse, if a doctor tells them how long they have left to live, they believe it without question, because Doctors know best or because the statistics say so. They see no way out.

On the other hand, there are people who challenge their diagnosis, who fight the disease, who take an active part on their fate, and some become those lucky cases that make it, that beat the disease. Finally, there are the so-called miracles, when people heal completely and beat the odds without any medical explanation for it. There are as many scenarios as there are people alive.

One of my favorite phrases from Deepak Chopra (who was a Medical Doctor too) was: “You can accept a diagnosis but never a prognosis.” And this is very important to keep in mind. Having a diagnosis is one thing, but what will happen after, is a completely different one, and it depends on many factors that are unique to each individual.

As for medicine, we can’t deny that traditional western medicine has helped increase life expectancy and fight disease, however, this does not take the responsibility of our health away from us. In fact, the more complex and sophisticated medicine has become, the more we need to get involved in healing our bodies. Also, we should never dismiss other ancient, and more modern types of medicine such as: Oriental medicine, Homeopathy, Acupuncture, Ayurveda, Herbal medicine, Energy medicine etc. There is a great amount of knowledge and wisdom in each and every one of them.

But aside from the realm of medicine, there is one major truth, and that is: nothing controls our health more than we do… can I say it again? nothing controls our health more than we do…

A lot of people will strongly disagree with this statement, and I totally understand, a lot of people may even find it offensive, and that too, I understand.

Nevertheless, if we come to grasp the complex workings of our health, we start to see the truth in this statement. Our health is the result of a balance between our physical body, our mind and our soul, if we disregard any of these three inseparable parts of us, we are not seeing ourselves as a whole and we fall out of balance. This imbalance is what creates disease, and even accidents (yes, believe it or not!). In fact put in one phrase: our health depends solely on the level of harmony and connection that we have with our soul, that is all.

We could write volumes on the last paragraph, but to keep it simple and short for this post lets say this:
Emotions are deeply implicated in the causation of illness or in the restoration of health. When we have negative emotions, and we do not know how to handle them, or we are not even aware of them, they can create blockages in our body, if not dealt with properly, these blockages will create disease and later death.

Now, emotions are caused by our thoughts and our thoughts are mostly based on beliefs that are often unconscious. If we can disconnect form our thoughts and connect with our soul (our true consciousness) we can be in control of our emotions, and therefore our health.

The particular symptoms or diseases are quite irrelevant, as long as we are dealing with symptoms, we will always have symptoms to deal with (in different organs and different diseases). In other words, handling the symptoms is not the right way to restore a person’s health.

Being in good health means being in balance, so what a sick person needs is to regain his/her balance, and there are many ways to do this, and there are many types of healing techniques available, including of course traditional medicine, but the ultimate outcome will depend on the person’s awareness of their own body-mind-spirity connection.

This is a simple yet also very complex statement. Awareness means we need to “unlearn” a lot of things and we need to open up to a totally different point of view and devote the time and effort it takes to embark in this journey, probably the most important journey you will ever take in your human lifetime.

Just some food for thought…Take care of yourself and consider what you just read…

Have a great week!

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Taming our Monkey Minds

For my US readers, I hope you’ve had a lovely Memorial Day Holiday!

Many of you have probably heard the expression: “Monkey Mind,” especially if you meditate or practice yoga. A monkey mind refers to the endless stream of fragmented thoughts that we have in a day. In average, human beings produce about 60.000 to 80.000 thoughts a day! Which means the talk in our heads is pretty much constant and incessant.

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The problem with having a monkey mind is that only a tiny part of all the thoughts in our head is relevant to the present moment (which is the only thing that is true and real). On top of it, the vast majority of our thoughts are nonsense, we often dwell in the past or the future, we obsess about mistakes we might have made, we battle our guilt, we plan ahead, we worry, etc.

Also, a great percentage of these thoughts are negative, often based in fear of the future, resentment of the past and so on.

We are often drifting into fantasy, negativity and fiction, which means, we are constantly missing the point of life: being fully present each and every moment.

In short, most of these thoughts do little to help us live and function well but rather the opposite, they slow us down, make us less alert and less present, and in many cases can bring negative outcomes into our life.

Most people don’t even consider taming their monkey minds, because they think that this constant mind chatter is “normal,” and even if they think otherwise, they do not know or believe that they have the power to change it, the power to quiet their minds down!

The great news is that all of us CAN quiet down our minds and we must do so! because by doing it, we will be more alert, more present, less stressed, calmer, happier, etc… the benefits are endless!

Both, the quality and the quantity of our thoughts are very important!

My very first newsletter back in February 2011: Paying Attention to your Thoughts, will give you a little glimpse on the importance of the quality of our thoughts.

As for this particular posting, I would like to focus on the quantity of our thoughts.

The overwhelming amount of thoughts we have leave little room for true clarity and presence, so, by lowering the “amount” of our thoughts and quieting our minds we can start to see positive changes in our life. Why should we do this?
Well, because, if we don’t control our mind, it controls US! and the results are never glorious.

I once heard a very nice analogy that compared the untamed mind to a wild horse. Imagine riding a wild horse, a horse you don’t control at all… you will be at its mercy and most likely shaken until it throws you to the ground. In contrast, if you ride a tamed horse, you hold the reins, you are in control and you can choose the pace.

How do we quiet our minds?
It is a process, but the very first step is to become AWARE of our monkey mind, if we are aware that our mind is out of control (which in most cases it is) we are one step ahead, then we have to believe that we can change it. The process may take more or less time depending on every individual and their own level of awareness.

I would like to share some things that have helped me, quiet my mind:

First and foremost, the practice of meditation
Meditation is one of the best tools you can use to quiet your mind.
If you wish to read a little more on this, I wrote about this in my posting: Meditation, an incredible tool

For some people meditation may seem daunting at first and hard to understand. It is possible, however, to start by using other approaches until you feel ready to give meditation a serious try.

The practice of Yoga or another eastern discipline like Tai Chi
The idea of these disciplines is that focusing the mind solely on the movements of the body helps to bring about a state of mental calm and clarity that you can then apply to your everyday life.

Developing awareness of your senses
By tuning into our senses we can be more present. The more our senses become heightened, the more we can really feel, smell, taste, see and listen to what life is telling us in every little moment. I had a posting on this recently too: Your Senses, a Gateway to the Present Moment

Mindful activities
Another good exercise to quiet your mind is really concentrating in small tasks that we usually do automatically. For instance, next time you are cooking, walking to work, etc. try to breath deeply as you do what you are doing and solely focus on the task at hand and your surroundings.

Let’s take the example of cooking: feel the vegetables in your hands, smell the garlic you are using, look at all the colors of the ingredients, immerse yourself fully in what you are doing.

Watch your thoughts
If anything, you can start by “watching” your thoughts, do not judge them or elaborate on them, just witness them as if you are an observer that acknowledges the thoughts but does not get involved with them.

Have a great week!

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