10% Happier – Book of the Month

Continuing with the topic of meditation after my last post: Meditation Explained! I would like to introduce a wonderful book for further reading. A good friend of mine gifted me this book a few weeks ago and I really loved it: 10% Happier by Dan Harris

dan-harrisI have read many books about meditation, but one thing I really liked about Dan Harris’ book is that the author is the epitome of skepticism, and he became a meditator in spite of all the resistance he initially had about it. He realized that by meditating his entire life transformed for the better.

As a known TV anchor, Harris had access to many of the leading teachers of meditation and gurus of self help in the country, so he shares his personal encounters with Deepak Chopra, Eckart Tolle, Tara Brach, amongst others.

Harris has a way with words, his writing style is enjoyable, insightful and funny. It is an easy read and a very light book, as opposed to many meditation books that can be hard to grasp or heavy to read.

He represents a large part of the population that have many misconceptions about meditation, or that get turned off by the spiritual lingo that often accompanies this practice.

I believe this book is of great value to anybody, regardless of their knowledge or interest in meditation; it is the story of one man, who was confronted with his human struggles and found meditation, which, in spite of his initial skepticism and cynical view came around and understood and experienced first hand the benefits of the practice.

Here below is an excerpt that sums it up:

“until we look directly at our minds we don’t really know what our lives are about… everything we experience in this world goes through one filter – our minds – and we spend very little time bothering to see how it works”

He shares tips and ideas that he received from experts in the field, and he uses a language that is really accessible to a wide audience. For people who are more familiar with meditation, this book is still a great read, and he offers new and interesting insights like for instance the RAIN methodology for applying mindfulness, given to him by Tara Brach.

Once you start practicing meditation and mindfulness, you can use this practical methodology called RAIN.

R: recognize, A: allow, I: investigate, N: non-identification

First you just recognize and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, the next step is to allow them to be, this means not fighting neither your thoughts nor your feelings, letting them be without resisting them, the third step is to investigate them, to see how they are affecting you (how are your thoughts connected to your emotions or bodily feelings, what is happening in your body, etc. and last but not least not identifying with your thoughts and emotions, not letting them rule over you, understanding that your thoughts and emotions are not you, they do not define you, they are just waves that come and go and that you can simply observe without engaging nor identifying with them.

I highly encourage you to take a look at this book, it is a great read and an eye opener on meditation!

Have a Great Week!

No more problems please!

Have you ever wondered about how you deal with problems? those kind of problems you actually would prefer not to deal with? the problems you may not even see because you prefer not to? I recently read something that inspired today’s post: When you ignore a problem, it doesn’t go away, it just gets bigger and bigger

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Most of the problems or conflicts we have, arise from the way we relate to the world around us, especially other human beings or situations we find ourselves in. When a problem or conflict that creates emotional discomfort arises, we sometimes choose to ignore it, we’d rather not face it because we may not have a clue how to fix it, or it may be so big and scary that it is overwhelming just to think about it, so we don’t!, we shut it off, we ignore it and we try to occupy our minds in something else and pretend it is not there. We often do this unconsciously, we may not even be aware that we are shutting it off, or we may even convince ourselves that there is NO problem at all, that we are fine!

It is fascinating how our mind works, in its constant effort to avoid pain it will divert us from what is really going on. However, by ignoring a problem we are allowing it to grow bigger and bigger, and one day, inevitably it will blow up on our face, and by then, the damage might be unrecoverable… This is particularly true when it comes to relationships, we often allow the conflicts and the discomfort to become the norm, and we live with them instead of solving them, until one day something breaks (whether it is our health, the relationship, or both) and there is not much we can do to fix it at that point.

But, since we may be ignoring our problems without really being aware that we are doing it, how on earth can we get around this…?

The good news is that while our minds can totally trick us, our bodies cannot, our bodily sensations are a very good gauge to measure the state of our life. That is why it is so incredibly important to be in touch with our bodies, with our physical sensations and discomforts, and with our overall state of health.

Most of us have experienced what we call butterflies in our tummy when we are excited or nervous, or that knot in our throat when we are sad or speechless, or the tension in our shoulders or tummy when we are angry; our bodies are always reacting to the way we feel, no matter how hard we try to control it. Our bodies always tell us the truth, so we must listen…

The sensations in our bodies do not abide by the rules and filters that our mind dictates and chooses. Our bodies are plain and simple sensors of life… our organs do not “analyze” nor “judge” everything, they just function well or not so well, depending on what is going on around us, and especially inside our minds.

If you feel emotional discomfort, the first step is to make peace with the feeling, by that I mean, don’t be hard on yourself for feeling the way you do, you have a right to feel sad, angry, frustrated, guilty etc. no matter what the situation is. Acknowledge the feeling, let it be there (which is different than feeding it by being overly negative or taking a victim role) just be aware of it and try to understand why it is there?, when do you feel it? is this only an emotional feeling (sadness, anger, frustration, etc.) or it is accompanied by a bodily sensation (pain, discomfort, tension, etc.)?, allow it to be there, do not escape the feeling, but do not cling to it either, just witness it and try to notice when it came about (did something happen that triggered it? has it happened before? what were you doing when it happened or right before? what were you thinking about when it happened or before…?)

There are many fascinating stories about how our body speaks to us, here below I wanted to share a few that I have read about:

A little boy that felt totally neglected by his parents, who were too busy to spend quality time with him, became sick, and his parents were forced to be by his side and take care of him, sickness became his way of calling for attention, and he went on to become a sickly adult. It wasn’t until later in life and many illnesses, that he understood (through therapy) this dysfunctional pattern, and little by little he recovered his health.

Or the woman who never felt listened to by her husband (something neither of them had acknowledged nor realized) until one day she lost her voice, with no explanation, she could not speak for almost a year. Luckily, through therapy, she understood what had caused her voice to shut off, and she slowly recovered her voice.

Another woman in a seemingly stable and long lasting relationship, had lost all interest in intimacy, sex became painful and she started having hormonal and fertility problems, she was told she would never be able to conceive. Years later, she was confronted by the fact that she had never felt loved, appreciated nor desired by her partner of many years, and her sexuality and reproductive organs started shutting off as a consequence. She later went on to enjoy great health, enjoy intimacy and even had a child (with a different partner.)

Just remember that the problems you may be facing, especially in regards to relationships in your life, may not be totally clear to you nor obvious, but the physical sensations along with the emotional discomfort are a great way to delve a little more into what is going on and hopefully get to the bottom of it before it becomes a really big problem.

Do not ignore problems, face them, allow them to be, accept them, make peace with them, as that is the only way to start solving them. It is important to take an active role in solving our problems as opposed to ignoring them and numbing ourselves. So start by listening to your body a little more and to your mind a little less…

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Taking Responsibility for our Mental Health

Most people, at some point or another, become aware that their actions play a very important part in their physical health, we know for instance that in order to keep our body in good health we need to eat healthy foods, we also know that our body needs exercise to be in good shape, and we know that self destructing habits like smoking and drinking (let alone drugs) are detrimental to our body.

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However, there is very little awareness out there about how to take care of our mental health, and this is just as important as our physical health if not more! Most people may think that unless they have been diagnosed with some sort of mental illness, they don’t need to pay special attention to their mental health. This is not true at all!

Being mentally healthy doesn’t simply mean been “sane” it is much broader than that, it means enjoying an overall state of well being. Our mind is, to a great extent, responsible for our overall well being. The fact that the majority of people are able to function well in society, does not mean they are in perfect mental health, the truth is, we all have some areas in our psyche that could use improvement.

It wasn’t until recently that this awareness became more widespread and that people started to look inwards, trying to understand the workings of their mind and even seeking help if needed, without it being taboo or shameful, but there is still a long way to go.

Aside from serious mental disorders, that are rare and more complex, there are many personality or behavior disorders that are quite common and affect people’s lives in many ways. If we struggle with relationships, with our eating, with the way we see our bodies, with stress, with insecurities, with addictions, etc. chances are, there is room for improvement. The way our psyche works determines the way we relate to other people, the way we relate to food, the way we perform our work, the way we treat our body, in other words: our psyche determines the way we live, and the quality of our life.

Just as we clean our bodies, brush our teeth and comb our hair, we need to work on our mental cleanup. Most people don’t openly talk about their mental / emotional challenges, but there is an alarming increase in the number of people that take medication for depression, anxiety, ADD, etc. and then there are the many more that are not treated but still suffer from the consequences of mood disorders, lingering sadness, loss of purpose, constant anger, etc.

Although in some cases it is important to use medication, especially in the more severe cases of mental illnesses, in the milder, most common cases of personality disorders or mental/emotional challenges, medication is rarely needed, however, there is a real need for personal commitment to healing, and the problem is, most people don’t even know they have a problem, or if the do, they deny it or they think it will go away on its own, or they try to “numb” it by using escaping mechanisms (like alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc.) which is a problem in and of itself.

When I was 20 I suffered from my first depression, although at the time I had no idea what was happening, I just felt really sad and was loosing interest for the things that used to excite me. I was clinically depressed but totally unaware of it. After a year or so, I moved to a different country and the change in my environment lessened the symptoms of my depression, until I relapsed a couple years later, then I was diagnosed and treated with medication and psychotherapy. The medication did help, but I did not like the idea of being medicated and I was still struggling deeply with the diagnosis, I was not in denial any more but I was ashamed and shocked by it.

A few years later I relapsed, yet again…I had to accept that it was happening to me again, and I sought treatment (this time I refused medication and worked with therapy alone). Once I felt better I was determined to take action and do whatever I needed to NEVER relapse again. Even though there is a history of depression in my family, I chose to believe that I was not “doomed” to be in and out of depression and medication all my life, but I had an active role to play in my recovery, and ever since that moment, I have been actively working on staying healthy, and in spite of great challenges in my personal life, I am proud to report that I have not relapsed, my last episode was 10 years ago!!! This is a real victory for me.

I know every case is different, but I also know that we can all play an active part in the prevention and recovery of our mental and emotional challenges. I have come to personally know so many people around me that suffer from debilitating insecurities, obsessive compulsive behavior, eating disorders, self destructing habits (alcohol, smoking, other addictions), social anxiety, constant worrying, chronic depression (which often goes undiagnosed), etc. That I realized that I was far from being alone, and that mental health is all about mental well being. In my particular case I was lucky because three very important things happened for me:

  1. I realized I had a problem
  2. I accepted the fact that I had a problem, and
  3. I decided to take an active role on my recovery and further prevention

Most people simply don’t realize they have a problem, and if they do, they do not accept it, and if they accept it they do not believe they can play an active part in their healing. We all have a responsibility for our health, we are not just victims of fate, and we all have the capacity to heal ourselves, but first we need to believe we can.

Until we realize our responsibility towards our mental health, there is little we can do to improve those areas in which we continuously struggle.

“Nothing will change if nothing changes”

If we don’t do anything to change things, they simply won’t change, and it is our responsibility to make a difference, nobody will live our lives in our place, we are the architects of our own lives. A good way to become aware of the state of your mental health is to start noticing the areas of discomfort in your life and detect any usual patterns in your behavior or your feelings, take the time to look a little closer at your hard set beliefs, your behavior patterns, your emotional reactions, etc. they can all give you valuable clues on the state of your mental health.

Little by little we can become more aware of our minds’ functioning and we can work towards making it work for us instead of against us, it takes commitment, a true commitment to ourselves, to our well being.

If you are interested in further reading on this topic, see below for a list of good resources on the most common challenges that can go undetected and can really hinder our capacity to live a more fulfilling life.

Have a good week!

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A New Human Model

This week, I would like to present  my readers with a new concept of our whole human experience, or should I say a more “holistic” way of being and living.

I am reading a fascinating book: The Heart Revolution – Breakthrough for a New World by Annie Marquier, in which she offers a metaphor to help us better understand the interior dynamic of our humanity, she compares the human being with an ensemble made of a chariot, a horse, a driver (that leads the horse), and a master that sits inside the chariot. Symbolically, the chariot represents our physical body, the horse represents our emotions, the driver represents our mind and the master represents our true essence.

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The physical, mental and emotional elements form what we often call our personality or our “ego.” And the Master represents our true and transcendental essence. So lets look at each of these elements in more detail:

The Physical Body – The Chariot

Following this comparison, the state of our physical body: the chariot, depends on the maintenance given by an intelligent driver, but also depends on the way it is led by the horse. Since the state of our physical body is easily seen and measured, it can give us a clear indication of the degree of command the driver has over the entire vehicle.

The Emotions – The Horse

Interestingly enough, in the term emotion, we have the word “motion”. Our emotions determine our driving power, our strength, our capacity to act. Therefore, our emotions are a large reservoir of energy. It is the horse that has the energy to pull the entire vehicle, it is an essential element for the journey. The question is: how is this energy reservoir being used?

The Mind – The Driver

The driver: the mind, is the one that holds the thinking process and his functions are extremely important as he commands the whole vehicle. For instance, the horse responds to the thinking process of the driver and not to external circumstances, as we had originally believed. Also, the driver is the connection between the master and the ego. Ideally, the functions of the driver should be:

  1. Delivering the external information to the Master
  2. Listening to the instructions of the Master
  3. Successfully leading the horse in the right direction, according to the master’s instructions
  4. Taking intelligent care of the chariot

The Essence – The Master

The names given to this essence are as diverse as the different cultures and languages that exist, it can be called: soul, spirit, higher self, etc. Even thought the materialistic philosophy still, to this day, denies the existence of this essence, long standing traditions, the direct experience of more and more people, as well as recent scientific discoveries, are revealing its undeniable presence. The Master is the undeniable guide and the wisdom of the whole ensemble.

What is the current functioning?

The current functioning of our experience, has often denied or neglected the existence of the master and therefore has unknowingly missed its guidance, in other words: the driver has had to lead the chariot by himself, he has failed to listen to the subtle but vital instructions of the master. Up to recently, the driver had not developed a relationship with the master, in many cases he was not even aware the master was there. So the functioning of the vehicle has been very limited.

The driver does not have and will never have all the knowledge to lead the horse and the chariot in the best possible way, he needs the Master’s wisdom to do a good job. All the challenges, problems and difficulties that surround us at a personal and planetary level come directly from this lack of communication and our limited functioning as a result.

However, for the first time in our history, at least the history we can trace back to, we are closer to attaining the ideal human model, where The Master can recover its influence and authority. If we are able to truly integrate the master into our daily life, we will be approaching a great revolution of the human consciousness which in turn will allow us to create a new world for each one of us and for the humanity as a whole.

If you want to read more and discover how this fascinating human model can work for you, I encourage you to read the book, it is a revelation. But for now, I give you this article as food for thought!

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Health and Spirit, the connection that matters!

As I was listening to some friends talk about illness and health… I got inspired to write this post.

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I first would like to share with you that one of my worst fears used to be the idea of loosing my health.

I was not only scared about loosing it, I was rather obsessed about it. Every time I saw a weird stain or pimple on my skin I would start to worry; every time I had any kind of pain or sensation in my body that wasn’t normal I would start to panic and consider all the possible worst-case health scenarios out there. It was exhausting!

It wasn’t until my first exposure to the idea that our thoughts have an enormous impact on our health that I started to change this obsessive pattern, until it completely disappeared, to my great relief. After seeing this incredible shift in my own life, I started to pay more attention to the way people see and manage their health.

Health is one of the most important elements in our human existence. Some people take it for granted, others obsess about it, others abuse it, others believe they have no control over it, others feel responsible for it, etc. The list can go on and on and on, we all have a different attitude towards it.

Can you think of the way you see your own health? the way you manage it? Why don’t you take a minute and think about it… What does your health mean to you and what are your thoughts about it?

I was recently with a friend that was diagnosed with a progressive illness. She seemed to be totally resigned to her fate since it was, as the doctors put it, “genetic.” So in her mind, she was bound to get it and there was nothing she could do about it, except for alleviating the symptoms with drugs. That was that!

This is not uncommon, in fact, many people believe that if their parents or close relatives had an illness, there is a great probability of them getting it as well, and doctors support this point of view, unfortunately. The part that nobody tells us is that genetics plays a very small part on developing any disease, very small.

There are people who are diagnosed with a terminal disease, and they resign themselves, even worse, if a doctor tells them how long they have left to live, they believe it without question, because Doctors know best or because the statistics say so. They see no way out.

On the other hand, there are people who challenge their diagnosis, who fight the disease, who take an active part on their fate, and some become those lucky cases that make it, that beat the disease. Finally, there are the so-called miracles, when people heal completely and beat the odds without any medical explanation for it. There are as many scenarios as there are people alive.

One of my favorite phrases from Deepak Chopra (who was a Medical Doctor too) was: “You can accept a diagnosis but never a prognosis.” And this is very important to keep in mind. Having a diagnosis is one thing, but what will happen after, is a completely different one, and it depends on many factors that are unique to each individual.

As for medicine, we can’t deny that traditional western medicine has helped increase life expectancy and fight disease, however, this does not take the responsibility of our health away from us. In fact, the more complex and sophisticated medicine has become, the more we need to get involved in healing our bodies. Also, we should never dismiss other ancient, and more modern types of medicine such as: Oriental medicine, Homeopathy, Acupuncture, Ayurveda, Herbal medicine, Energy medicine etc. There is a great amount of knowledge and wisdom in each and every one of them.

But aside from the realm of medicine, there is one major truth, and that is: nothing controls our health more than we do… can I say it again? nothing controls our health more than we do…

A lot of people will strongly disagree with this statement, and I totally understand, a lot of people may even find it offensive, and that too, I understand.

Nevertheless, if we come to grasp the complex workings of our health, we start to see the truth in this statement. Our health is the result of a balance between our physical body, our mind and our soul, if we disregard any of these three inseparable parts of us, we are not seeing ourselves as a whole and we fall out of balance. This imbalance is what creates disease, and even accidents (yes, believe it or not!). In fact put in one phrase: our health depends solely on the level of harmony and connection that we have with our soul, that is all.

We could write volumes on the last paragraph, but to keep it simple and short for this post lets say this:
Emotions are deeply implicated in the causation of illness or in the restoration of health. When we have negative emotions, and we do not know how to handle them, or we are not even aware of them, they can create blockages in our body, if not dealt with properly, these blockages will create disease and later death.

Now, emotions are caused by our thoughts and our thoughts are mostly based on beliefs that are often unconscious. If we can disconnect form our thoughts and connect with our soul (our true consciousness) we can be in control of our emotions, and therefore our health.

The particular symptoms or diseases are quite irrelevant, as long as we are dealing with symptoms, we will always have symptoms to deal with (in different organs and different diseases). In other words, handling the symptoms is not the right way to restore a person’s health.

Being in good health means being in balance, so what a sick person needs is to regain his/her balance, and there are many ways to do this, and there are many types of healing techniques available, including of course traditional medicine, but the ultimate outcome will depend on the person’s awareness of their own body-mind-spirity connection.

This is a simple yet also very complex statement. Awareness means we need to “unlearn” a lot of things and we need to open up to a totally different point of view and devote the time and effort it takes to embark in this journey, probably the most important journey you will ever take in your human lifetime.

Just some food for thought…Take care of yourself and consider what you just read…

Have a great week!

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Avoid Unnecessary Hurt

I recently came across a quote that I found interesting and I wanted to share it with you today:

“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper.
They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up worn out.”

– Chris Colfer

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Although by no means we should allow people to hurt us over and over, it is important to keep in mind that we have little control over what other people say or do, but we certainly have control over our own emotions and reactions.

I strongly believe that people are not out there to hurt you, but they have their own issues and challenges and if they can’t keep their negative emotions under control (envy, resentment, anger, etc.), they may say or do things that hurt others; whether they do it on purpose or not, it is still a result of their own lack of emotion control. Your reaction is also the result of your own emotion control.

You can choose today not to let other people’s comments or actions bring you down, you can decide to grow in understanding and wisdom and raise above it or, you can sink in despair, anger, resentment,t etc. But remember, it is always YOUR choice!

Some people believe they have little control over their emotions and they feel victims of their circumstances, but the truth is we always have a choice, and we need to become responsible for our own well-being, therefore responsible for our own emotions and reactions. Once we accept this simple truth, we can work towards achieving peace by learning to tame our emotions, one of the best ways to do this is to quiet our minds, because our thoughts and beliefs are responsible for our emotions.

We are not victims of our surroundings, we are the creators of our life, so we can choose how to live, it takes some effort and commitment but it is worth every minute spent on it. Knowing that you don’t depend on others for your happiness is an empowering thought. This to me was a wonderful realization, one that gave me freedom from the people around me and the circumstances around me.

This does not mean we should let people get away with anything, when dealing with difficult relationships we should certainly take action to prevent further hurt. But ultimately others can only hurt us as much as we allow them to. Below is a short list of what we can do to start:

  • Avoid people who tend to say or do hurtful things, if you can
  • Talk to them when you are both calm and at peace, let them know your feelings, without blaming them
  • If neither of the above are possible, practice detachment and self control when you are in their presence

The list above can be used in many different contexts and situations, not only in regards to difficult relationships but also for difficult circumstances. If you find yourself in a situation that is less than desirable, you have 3 choices:

  • You remove yourself from the situation, OR
  • You fix the situation, OR
  • You accept the situation and learn to live with it, in peace

As Eckart Tolle would say: “resisting your present reality can only lead to frustration and despair.” By resisting he means resenting your current situation and allowing it to bring you down.

Some people find it hard to believe that they can become immune to hurtful actions and words from others, but they are hurtful only to the extent that we allow them to be. With some conscious work on yourself, you can little by little attain freedom from external circumstances. If you want to read more on this topic, I have a few more postings that might be of interest to you:

Have a great week!

The Truth about Multitasking

In this fast-paced world, we have come to believe that “Multitasking” is a great skill, a needed one in fact, something all of us should master and can boost about. Well, the truth is, multitasking is not so good for you.

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According to Wikipedia: “Human multitasking is the best performance by an individual of appearing to handle more than one task at the same time. The term is derived from computer multitasking.”

This new word: “multitasking” has become a synonym of efficiency, speed, professionalism, etc. which is a total lie, another illusion we live under, an illusion imposed by the crazy pace of life we are all victims of.

Constantly switching from one task to another means we are putting less attention on each task and affecting the way our brain performs, we are more likely to make errors and ironically we waste more time.

From a very early age now, we subject our young kids to tight agendas, too many extracurricular activities which, in my opinion, contributes partly to the latest epidemic of ADD and ADHD. Our kids have to move from one activity to the next with no break, and often because of lack of time they have to handle more than one task at a time, like doing their homework while eating their supper for instance. We are making our kids handle too many things at once, which is not healthy, especially for a developing brain.

As human beings, our nature, our essence, our true self is meant to BE, rather than to DO. This does not mean we should sit around and do nothing, what it means is that we have a right and a real need to find a space to just BE, like a tree, like a flower, like an animal, we need to just BE, and stop all the doing.

What happens now is that we have totally neglected our state of “being” to favor our state of “doing” to the point that we have lost touch with our true self.

We feel like we have to be doing something all the time, because we are not comfortable with just being, we are not comfortable with our most innate and natural state. So we do more and more and “thanks” to our modern technology, we now can do many things at the same time, we can send an email, while we walk the dog and listen to music; we can be on the phone while we work on the computer and eat lunch, it is simply INSANE!

Besides, this new idea of multitasking is taking all the fun out of actually enjoying any particular task, because we are not truly present when doing anything. In positive psychology, there is a very interesting concept called “flow,” it was introduced by psychologist: Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.

Flow is the mental state in which a person is fully involved in an activity to the point of loosing track of time, this state induces great joy and satisfaction, which in turn constitutes great fuel for our brain and our overall well being.

For some people the state of flow only happens when they are forced to be totally focused in a certain task, for instance running a marathon, or climbing a mountain, these are activities where there is no room for distraction, so no room for any other parallel activity nor thought. Many people can still experience flow, however, while doing things like: painting, dancing, etc. this is especially true of artists, when they enter a state of deep inspiration.

One of the beauties of being in a state of flow is that it takes you right to the present moment, nothing else matters but what you are doing, and you are bringing all your focus to it, this means you are fully in the present. Which brings us back to the concept of being as opposed to doing. If we are in the present moment, totally present with the task at hand, we are “being” not just doing.

So the state of flow goes against the idea of multitasking, where we have no time for true concentration, no time for full attention, no time for real enjoyment, no time for being. We are not wired for multitasking, and we are creating unnecessary stress in our bodies by doing so, no matter how simple the tasks may seem.

The idea of being fully present at every moment means we do things in a mindful way, that is, in a conscious and aware state. When we do anything mindfully we are more likely to do it right, at the right time and with better results. So I encourage you to rethink your multitasking this week!

If you wish to read more about Flow, I highly recommend the book: Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

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