This week I would like to talk about the Art of Manifesting your desires, goals and dreams. This issue is a little longer than usual because it is hard to cover this subject in just a few paragraphs, also, I have added links to other posts with more information about some tools or concepts mentioned here.
The Law of Attraction states that we attract what we focus on, therefore, it is possible to attract the outcomes we want, if we direct our attention to them, this is the whole idea of “Manifesting.” The concept seems very simple but it can be very easily misleading and misunderstood.
For many people, the idea of Manifesting and the Law of Attraction was first introduced by the widely popular movie and book “The Secret.” However, the Law of Attraction and its many teachers have been around for a very long time.
The excitement for The Secret was short-lived for many, because most people who tried to do the things suggested by the movie/book realized they did not work for them. The truth is, the law absolutely works, whether we are aware of it or not, so in this post I would like to go through 6 of the main ingredients that need to be present in order for the Law to work in our favor.
Note that below I will use the abbreviation: d/g/d for: desires, goals and dreams, basically representing anything we would like to achieve in our lives, no matter how big or small.
There needs to be absolute clarity about your d/g/d, and that isn’t always the case. If you are ambiguous, unsure, or undecided about what you want, things get blurry and the law will reflect on this. I really love an analogy that I heard from Vishen Lakhiani, the founder of Finer Minds:
The Universe is like a restaurant Chef and you are the customer. Let’s say you order baked salmon and greens. As soon as your order enters the kitchen, the Chef busily starts rinsing the greens, taking the salmon from the fridge, chopping the vegetables, etc. Then, a few minutes later you call the waiter because you have changed your mind and decided you wanted Ahi Tuna with mashed potatoes instead, so, the Chef has to stop what he was doing and starts over, gets the tuna out of the fridge, peels the potatoes, boils the water, etc. And then… you call the waiter because you’ve changed your mind again and decided you wanted braised chicken with beans, so guess what, the Chef has to stop what he was doing and now has to start all over again. The story goes on and on and on. Do you get the idea?
So don’t be the undecided customer. If you need more clarity, try to look within, try to find deep inside yourself what is it that you really, truly want, find your passion, find what moves you. The only way to find it is to look within yourself and be totally honest, remember that what others want or expect from you is not necessarily what YOU want for yourself, so look inward.
You have to truly believe that your d/g/d can come true, if you don’t, there is no point on even trying. Very often we boycott our dreams, because, although we really want them, deep inside we don’t believe we can achieve them or we believe we are not worthy of them, and that is a major obstacle to the law of attraction. You have to really believe it can happen, and believe it not only with words but with your heart.
In order to do this, you may need to clear some blocking beliefs that may be programmed in your unconscious mind, there are some good techniques to do this, I have detailed them below under the section on Emotions.
3.-Outcome Focus & Detachment
You need to focus almost entirely on the outcome of your d/g/d and not on the “how” they will be fulfilled. The moment you start thinking about how it can happen or how “you” can make it happen, you will start loosing momentum and focus, because more often than not you’ll be buried in doubt, fear, hopelessness, etc.
Remember this: you do not need to have the whole plan laid out, you do not need to be in charge of every single detail of how it will happen, you just need to focus on the fulfillment of the dream and act as if it has already been fulfilled, imagine it, visualize it, feel it!
Also, it is very important not to confuse “means goals” with “end goals”, we should always focus on end goals. What I mean by this is that many people get trapped on the how to get where they want, so they think more about the means to get there than about the outcome they want, this gets so confusing that sometimes the means become the goal, and the true goal becomes somewhat forgotten.
To illustrate this a little more clearly, here is an example: lets say your true goal is to live in China, but you believe that in order to do it, you must save lots of money, so then your goal becomes saving money, and “living in China” takes a backstage, then you have confused the means with the end goal.
If you keep your focus on the main goal, acting as if you have already achieved it (e.g. find out about visas, learn Chinese, do research on the city you would like to move to, etc.), you are more likely to attract the opportunities that will bring you closer to the goal, these can be anything: a key friendship, an unexpected job offer, etc.
As contradictory as this may sound, you also need to detach from the outcome! This means you need to be flexible. You can have a dream, you should focus on it, but you should never attach to the outcome so much that you obsess about it or do not give the Universe a chance to show you what is best. Sometimes, there is a much greater dream awaiting for us, much greater than the one we envisioned, so it is important to always be flexible, yet stay focused. I hope this is not too confusing.
Some people think that they can have happy thoughts, look at their vision boards and that alone, will make their dreams come true, but they forget a very important part of the law of attraction, which is: taking action! The idea is that the law of attraction will attract towards you everything you need to achieve your d/g/d, the people, the means, the jobs, etc. But you do need to take action when the opportunity arises. I love a little story that makes a good analogy for this:
In a terrible flood, one man’s house had been totally covered by the water, he stood at the roof of his house and the water was still raising, desperately he prayed to God and asked for help, then a lifeguard came to help, but he sent him off, because he knew God will help him, then a boat came to pick him up and he let the boat go, because he knew God will save him, then a helicopter came to pick him up, but he let it go, because he knew God will come to help. Finally he drowned, and when he met with God in Heavens, he asked him why he did not save him, to which God replied: I sent you a lifeguard, a boat and a helicopter, but you sent them all off!!
5.-Practice & Consistency
This is another important aspect that gets forgotten. In order for us to manifest our d/g/d we need to stay constantly focused on them. If we think about them once and then forget it, we are not being consistent. We need to remind ourselves of the outcomes we want, all the time, every day! And when “life happens” we need to bring our focus BACK to our d/g/d so as not to loose track of them.
There are many tools that can help us do this, because when life takes over and we get busy, tired, discouraged, etc. we can easily drift away, and it is normal, but we can prevent it with practice and consistency.
The best is to seriously commit to a ritual (taking some time every single day, preferably around the same time), to work on your energy and to re-focus on your d/g/d, because when you let go of that focus, you loose momentum and miss opportunities.
Emotion is a very important ingredient of the law. We need to bring emotion into our projection, if we are not “feeling it”, it will not work as well. If we can feel the excitement and joy that our d/g/d will bring us, we are creating the right energy to attract them.
Emotion is in fact a gauge of the energy you are sending out to the world, so if your emotions are negative (fear, anger, sadness, etc.), you can be sure you are sending energy that will align to an outcome that is not what you want, so try to break the cycle of negative emotion as soon as it comes.
I recommend journaling, using EFT, Meditation, listening to uplifting music, going for a brisk walk in the woods, exercise, breathe deeply 5 times in a row, whatever it takes, break the grip of the negative emotion.
Also, remember that thoughts precede emotion, so if you catch your negative thoughts and break their grip, you will prevent the negative emotion from rising all together.
Here are some ideas of practices you can do each day to keep bringing your d/g/d into focus and ideally ignite the positive emotions their fulfillment will bring:
- Vision Boards, this is a great tool for everyone, especially for visual people, because it shows you images of the things you want.
- Mini Movies, this is a cool tool that brings boards to the next level: movies, they have the audio element and the motion element added to the images, so it offers a more complete sensorial feel. If you are good with technology you can create a little movie yourself, if not, look for software that can help you do so, like Mind Movies.
- Writing and Journaling: This is a very powerful way to bring your goals into focus and feel good in the present moment. You can keep Gratitude logs, Wish lists, and a Dream Journal. (I will go more in depth on these next week)
- Notes from the Universe, this is a very cool tool I just came across, it is a free service where you can sign up and get daily notes “from the Universe.” What this means is that every day, you get a short message in your inbox, that brings you back to your dream focus.
Remember: life does not just happen to us, we are the architects of our own lives!!!
Have a great week!
*The 21-day Meditation Challenge from the Chopra Center starts November 5th. Sign up, it is free and it is a wonderful opportunity to get you started on meditation or to refresh your existing practice!
*The Silva Life System Workshop (for DC, VA and MD residents), November 17-18. This is a wonderful Workshop that I highly recommend, I did it a few years back and it really opened my eyes! For more info contact Diana or Richard at:703-866-4030 or